The Role of husbands in marriage is very important that it determines the strength of the family, and the future on the home.
During the last few decades, our culture has redefined the meaning and responsibilities of men and women in society and in the home. Many men are confused and insecure.
Many do not know how to act in the home.
Growing up, they lacked a good model for leadership at home and have no mental picture of what it means to lead a family.
They do not lead effectively, or they do not even try. Increasingly, many men are becoming passive in the home. They’ve decided that the easiest thing to do is nothing
Fortunately, The Scriptures clearly give us the model for being a man, a husband, and a father.
I hope that this blog post will help you understand the biblical role of a husband more clearly than ever before.
When correctly interpreted and applied, these concepts not only result in freedom for the husband and wife but will also help you work better as a team to combat isolation and conflict in your marriage.
1. Love your wife unconditionally.
Ephesians 5:25 reads, “Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ also loved the church and gave Himself up for her.” Your unconditional acceptance of your wife is not based upon her performance, but on her worth as God’s gift to you.
If you want to love your wife unconditionally, always be sure her emotional tank is full. One of the best ways to do that is to affirm her constantly. Let her know verbally that you value her, respect her, and love her.
I have discovered that I simply cannot do that enough.
There is no doubt that words communicate love, but so do actions. You need to do both. As the Apostle John wrote in one of his letters: “let us not love with words or tongue, but with actions and in truth” (1 John 3:18).
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One of the missing ingredients in male leadership in homes is sacrificial action. When was the last time you gave up something for your wife—something you genuinely valued, like your golf game, a fishing trip, or your hobby?
Sometimes you need to give up something you enjoy so your wife can have a break and see your love for her.
2. Providing For Her
Another way to serve your wife is to provide for her. This provision first involves assuming responsibility for meeting the material needs of the family.
Paul tells us in 1 Timothy 5:8, “But if anyone does not provide for his own, and especially for those of his household, he has denied the faith, and is worse than an unbeliever.”
Providing for your wife also means taking the initiative in helping meet her spiritual needs. You do this by modeling godly character, by praying with her, by spending time together in God’s Word, and by looking for ways to encourage her spiritually.
3. A covering
women are to be respected, revered, and treated as equals with men. Unfortunately, many husbands have not gotten the message. They degrade their wives by neglect or with insensitive and abusive treatment.
One cause of the feminist movement may have been that men abandoned God’s design. When God presented Eve to Adam in the Garden, Adam received her as a gift of great value to God and to himself.
When husbands, particularly Christian husbands, do not treat their wives as a precious gift from God and helpmate, they can cause those wives to search for ways to find significance and value as persons, often outside God’s will.
4. A position of responsibility
God has placed the husband in a position of responsibility. It does not matter what kind of personality a man may have.
Your wife may be resisting you, fighting you, and spurning your attempts to lead, but it makes no difference. I believe our wives want us and need us to lead. You are not demanding this position; on the contrary, God placed you there.
You will not lead her perfectly, but you must care for you wife and family by serving them with perseverance
5. Serve your wife.
One of the best ways to serve your wife is to understand her needs and try to meet them. Do you know what your wife’s top three needs are right now? If she is a young mother, she has a certain set of basic needs.
If your children are grown and gone and you are in the empty nest, your wife has a different set of needs that you should try to meet.
Is she worried about anything? What troubles her? What type of pressure does she feel? Learn the answers to questions like that, and then do what you can to reduce her worries, her troubles, and her pressures.
What do you know about your wife’s hopes and dreams? I bet she has plenty, do you know what they are? Are you cultivating her gifts?
To be a leader, a lover, and a servant is to accommodate your life to the gift God has given you, which is your wife. Give up your life for hers and, at the judgment seat of Christ, He will say, “Well done, thou good and faithful servant.”