The role of a wife in marriage is so important that it determines how far the home will go, the strength of the family, and the overall response of the children.
Women today need a clear understanding of how they should relate to their husbands.
In fact, the significant social change brought about by women’s liberation movement over the last few decades has led to such confusion that the idea of “Role” is unacceptable to some.
They feel as if somehow they lose their identity and their freedom if they adhere. To some type of outdated standard.
It’s important for us to look clearly at what the Bible says on this subject. The scriptures are clear about the unique responsibilities, God assigns to a wife.
A wife’s responsibility can be properly understood only in the context of loving, servant leadership by her husband.
1. Respect Your Husband.
In Ephesians 5:33, Paul “says the wife must respect her husband”. When you respect your husband you reverence him, notice, regard him, honor him, prefer him, and esteem him.
It means valuing his opinion, admiring his wisdom and character, appreciating his commitment to you, and considering his needs and values.
Husbands have many needs, which most times are
- Self-confidence in his personhood as a man.
- To be listened to
- To be needed.
Meeting these needs is what respecting your husband is all about. Every husband wants his wife to be on his team, to coach him when necessary, but most of all are to be his cheerleader.
A husband needs a wife who is behind him, believing in him, appreciating him, and cheering him on as he goes out every day.
2. Be a Helper to your husband.
The Bible places a special emphasis on this responsibility for wives. Genesis tells us that God realized it wasn’t good for a man to be alone, and that he decided to make a helper suitable for him. (Gen. 2:18).
It’s interesting to note that the word helper refers only to God as he helps us.
The fact that the same word is applied to a wife signifies that women have been given tremendous power for good in our husband’s lives.
God has designed wives to help their husbands become all that God intend for them to be.
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3. Love Your Husband
Titus 2:4 calls for wives to love their husbands. A good description of the kind of love your husband needs is “unconditional acceptance”.
In other word, accept your husband just as he is an imperfect person.
Love also means being committed to a mutually fulfilling sexual relationship. I realize there is a whole lot more to love than sex, but here we are looking at how to fulfill God’s command
4. Submit to the Leadership Of Your Husband.
Just mention the word “Submission” and many women immediately become angry and even hostile.
Some husbands and wives actually believe submission infers that women are inferior to men in some ways.
some women think that if they submit they will lose their identity and become non-persons.
Others fear (some with good reason) that submission leads to being used or abused.
But here is God’s Instructions for us! A key passage from scripture:
Wives, be subject to your own husband, as to the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife, as Christ also is the head of the church, he himself being the Savior of the body.
But as the church is subject to Christ, so also the wives ought to be to their husbands in everything.
Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ also loved the church and gave himself up for her, so that he might sanctify her, having cleansed her by the washing of water with the word, that he might present to Himself the church in all her glory.
Having no spot or wrinkles or any such thing, but that she would be holy and blameless.
So husbands ought also to love their own wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself
5. Helping my husband become who God intended him to be
Building oneness in marriage works best when both spouses choose to fulfill their responsibilities voluntarily, with no pressure or Compulsion. To become the servant-leader God has commanded him to be, your husband needs your gracious respect and submission.
And also when a husband loves their wives the way he is commanded to, the wives can more easily submit themselves to that leadership.
When you entrust your life to the father, it’s much easier to be the wife of an imperfect man, particularly when you may have disagreements.
God has designed a master pattern for husbands and wives that when followed, will create a whole, usable, beautiful marriage.
Marriages must be workout according to God’s plan. The key is for each wife to follow God’s plan, know her, and work to fit in with her husband’s responsibilities.